Loving oneself is as important as being loved by another unconditionally. When chronic illness strikes, a relationship can be undone. We need to be loved as the people we are currently not the person we left behind. This doesn’t mean we don’t get up and dress up because we feel bad. We do, likely covering over all evidence of illness to be seen. Behind closed doors our significant other sees the bare bones. I’ve been fortunate to have strong, supportive ,and ,compassionate mate. This makes dealing with the gray days a little less daunting. Be appreciative for the support and strength your loved ones provide. All too often many walk away when they can’t handle this life sentence of chronic illness. It’s great to know there are still people who believe in the vows taken when married. Show up for date night, cook a special meal, go see a movie together when you have good days. It brings so much brightness to the relationship. Savor the good times!